The following is an excerpt from chapter 7 of my book “See Jane Run” Encouraging Mother Daughter Communication.
Although beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, the feeling of being beautiful exists solely in the mind of the beheld. ~Martha Beck
SEE JANE RUN – I AM BEAUTIFUL
At one time or another every young lady feels as if she is not beautiful. I met with these unkind thoughts early on in my childhood. Unsure of why I was so insecure at the time, I often played over and over in my mind (the thoughts of comparison) how my nose was too big, my lips were too full and my body type too skinny. I remember specifically thinking that one of my best friends was clearly prettier than I was because she was a lighter skin African American. I felt as if the boys liked her better and that I was not as desirable because I was of a darker skin tone. I wish that I could say that I eventually got over this negative perception of self while I was yet a little girl, but it wasn’t until I was a young adult that my thought process began to change. I had taken a job in my career field and was leaving my office one day. I remember an older gentlemen walking toward me in the parking lot and, as he approached me, he stopped to say, “You are such a beautiful young lady.” Those seven words from a stranger that day lifted my spirits a world over. They brought a smile to my face and, most importantly, helped to change the weight of the perception I had held over the years.
Now, I have no problem saying to myself and believing it, “I am Beautiful,” because in the mind of the beheld (my mind) my perception, my self-worth and self-esteem are much higher. I have learned to accept my differences, whether they’re in skin tone, facial features or body shape, and appreciate them as unique, and uniquely me.
Mothers – encourage your daughters to embrace their “uniqueness” and leverage its power in life.
Daughters – Be Uniquely YOU!