A Lesson in the Subconcsious Mind and how to experience true Breakthrough……
Author: Bryan Tracy
All of your habits of thinking and acting is stored in your subconscious mind. It has memorized all your comfort zones and it works to keep you in them.
Your subconscious mind causes you to feel emotionally and physically uncomfortable whenever you attempt to do anything new or different, or to change any of your established patterns of behavior.
You can feel your subconscious pulling you back toward your comfort zone each time you try something new. Even thinking about doing something different from what you’re accustomed to will make you feel tense and uneasy.
Superior men and women are always stretching themselves, pushing themselves out of their comfort zones. They are very aware how quickly the comfort zone, in any area, becomes a rut. They know that complacency is the great enemy of creativity and future possibilities.
For you to grow, to get out of your comfort zone, you have to be willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable doing new things the first few times. #trynewthings #breakfreefromtheold #shiftingyourparadigm #LEAP #LifeLessons #loveknowledge
Occasionally when Ann transitioned through life she has encountered a bout with anxiety. Not knowing how to deal with it, left Ann defeated every time. Her period of transition would leave her feeling exasperated, depressed and sometimes suicidal. Until one day her encounter with a co-worker who had experienced the same symptoms helped to set her free. Free indeed it was for Ann, she felt as if the hands that tightened around her throat at the first sign of change, finally loosen. Anxiety was her body’s natural response to danger, an automatic alarm that went off when she realized that certain occurrences were outside of her range of understanding and control. Ann felt like she was losing her grip on life and all that was familiar to her, so she fought change at work, at home, in relationships and sometimes even in and of her own necessary character flaws.
Charles Spurgeon said, “Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strength”. Imagine fighting against yourself…or within yourself, mindboggling to say the least. This is what Ann was experiencing. Not having enough information to dictate, control or to anticipate her outcome led to Ann’s anxiety.
Read more about Ann and 11 other women who “Mastered the Art of their Emotions” in order to transition successfully. Your shift in thought, mindset, and lifestyle awaits……. ~Janie
5 TIPS FOR VISION CASTING
Question: What does vision mean to you? Does it mean how you see, as in 20/20 eyesight? Where are you going?
Answer: vision is the catalyst for determining the right direction. Rather than just a dream or a far-reaching, unattainable goal, vision is a realistic picture of what you want to create and the impact of that effort. It’s also a reflection of your values, why your vision exists and what it will become in the future.
If a vision is to be attained, it must be shared by everyone pertinent to the vision.
Equip them with the purpose to achieve it, the effort will not be enough.
That vision could be something quite grand and inspiring or might be something as simple as a quarterly goal.
BROADCAST LOUD AND CLEAR
Details are not necessary, but clearly identifying and communicating that vision to others is.
Not only is establishing your vision the first step, it’s also the most important function for achieving it.
Announce your intentions, create a destination that is challenging yet realistic, and a set timeline for achieving it.
While you have a firm understanding of what your vision is, allow others to give feedback, help shape the process and fully develop it. Doing this provides a sense of ownership for everyone involved, thereby increasing their desire to help your vision become realized. Make your vision theirs…….
Vision gives significance to the otherwise meaningless details of our lives.
Incorporate the benefits of using your product or area of expertise with your vision to achieve the greater good.
MAKE IT PERSONAL……
A broad vision captures the big picture, it takes the combined efforts of many different individuals to realize it, therefore; increasing productivity and efficiency.
KEEP THE GOAL ALWAYS IN-SIGHT…..
Distractions and setbacks are bound to happen. To prevent them from thwarting your efforts, remind yourself of the vision on a regular basis.
Encourage positive steps taken in the right direction and recognize individuals for making them.
Source: Bible Habakkuk 2:2-4 – – “Write The Vision, And Make It Plain Upon Tables”……..
The following is an excerpt from chapter 7 of my book “See Jane Run” Encouraging Mother Daughter Communication.
Although beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, the feeling of being beautiful exists solely in the mind of the beheld. ~Martha Beck
SEE JANE RUN – I AM BEAUTIFUL
At one time or another every young lady feels as if she is not beautiful. I met with these unkind thoughts early on in my childhood. Unsure of why I was so insecure at the time, I often played over and over in my mind (the thoughts of comparison) how my nose was too big, my lips were too full and my body type too skinny. I remember specifically thinking that one of my best friends was clearly prettier than I was because she was a lighter skin African American. I felt as if the boys liked her better and that I was not as desirable because I was of a darker skin tone. I wish that I could say that I eventually got over this negative perception of self while I was yet a little girl, but it wasn’t until I was a young adult that my thought process began to change. I had taken a job in my career field and was leaving my office one day. I remember an older gentlemen walking toward me in the parking lot and, as he approached me, he stopped to say, “You are such a beautiful young lady.” Those seven words from a stranger that day lifted my spirits a world over. They brought a smile to my face and, most importantly, helped to change the weight of the perception I had held over the years.
Now, I have no problem saying to myself and believing it, “I am Beautiful,” because in the mind of the beheld (my mind) my perception, my self-worth and self-esteem are much higher. I have learned to accept my differences, whether they’re in skin tone, facial features or body shape, and appreciate them as unique, and uniquely me.
Mothers – encourage your daughters to embrace their “uniqueness” and leverage its power in life.
Daughters – Be Uniquely YOU!
It is true that we all have a natural resistance to processing trauma. In fact it’s probably one of the main roadblocks in our path to recovery and reaching our life’s purpose . It is obvious why we deny, and dissociate from the trauma: the memories cause us pain and discomfort. But ultimately these past pains must be integrated into our consciousness if we are to mend the wounds in our sense of self.
Quote: There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds. ~ Laurell K. Hamilton
It is important for us as individuals to understand the impact that Trauma has on our own personal belief systems.
How we perceive the trauma (wound)
How we ultimately react to the trauma (wounding)
Defined (noun) – an event in which a person witnesses or experiences a threat to his /her own life or physical safety or that of others and experiences fear, terror or helplessness. Trauma is derived from the Greek word wound.
Common negative beliefs associated with big-T trauma:
“I should have done something.” “I am powerless.” “I can’t protect myself.” “I am in danger.” “I am weak.”
Common negative beliefs associated with little-t trauma:
“I am insignificant.” “I am a failure.” “I am unlovable.” “I can’t trust anyone.” “I am broken.” “I don’t deserve to be happy.”
Exercise: Take a few minutes and define trauma or share what you think it means to you. Trauma vary widely and the variety shows that trauma means different things to different people. Some of the more common answers include;
A horrible experience that changes your perception
An event that exceeds one’s ability to cope
Being stuck in some past state due to shock/horror
When the past holds you hostage, making you feel like you have no choices
A life threatening or ego-threatening event
Not being able to move through a bad episode from the past
List one or two areas in which you /have experienced trauma?
In fact, you may feel the effects of these traumas for many years, even for the rest of your life. Sometimes you don’t even notice effects right after the trauma happens. Years later you may begin having thoughts, nightmares, and other disturbing symptoms. You may develop these symptoms and not even remember the traumatic thing or things that once happened to you.
Now is the time not only to identify the Trauma (small or large) but most importantly to evict it from further hindering you from pursuing your core passion/purpose in life., , Three defining steps in which to take when evicting Trauma from your life forever;
Re-Define your role from that of Victim to that of Victor….
Re-write your story not in the form of intrusive symptoms but rather as an Overcomer.
Re-Integrate by not just making that commitment but by taking steps to move forward in life with this NEW reality and NEW life narrative.
Once you have Re-Defined, Re-Written and Re-Integrated into your NEW reality and NEW life, you will find that Passion and Purpose truly does exist beyond Trauma.
Life Happens and No one is Exempt………………………..
Have you ever heard the expression? “I don’t wish this on my worst enemy”? It implies, something one would say, in order to emphasize that something is extremely unpleasant.
Those were my exact words, at a not so grand moment in my life. Although, it didn’t seem like a moment, but more like a lifetime.
At the time, I couldn’t see pass the days in front of me because of the fear and anxiety that I had allowed to crowd my mind. I cried quite a bit I must say, overcome by hurt & the pain of rejection and uncertainty of what was to come.
As I share this post, I can honestly say I have made it through that dark period in my life and have emerged with such a greater sense of self, myself. It was then, that I realized that the fear and anxiety I experienced were largely, what I myself had internalized.
Yes, the situation was chaotic and the pain I was experiencing was very real. But my perception (although dismal) at the time and the way I handled the situation, were results of conscious reactions based on a rollercoaster of unstable emotions.
I know you are saying how can you say that? Pain is real and when we go through it, there’s no mature way to handle it. But! I beg to differ. Knowing what I know now I can say with as surety, that we are our own filters of what we allow to negatively impact us in our day to day living. It is our own perception and our own choices, more so our conscious behaviors that largely determines, how we go through life’s trials.
I say once again, Life Happens and No one is Exempt…, regardless of who you are and the position you may assume in life. It is the trials of Life that teaches us what we are made of.
After which, we emerge knowing what it is we truly believe. What I celebrate most is the fact that in such uphill battles, there is recompense. Recompense in the form of wisdom, strength and purpose, gained as a result of life’s experiences, good or bad.
My favorite go to from my word bank is, “Been there, done that, won’t go back no more, no more, no more, no more”! At least that is my hope, never to allow life’s challenges to cause me to act otherwise un-seemingly again……after all I have wisdom, strength and purpose on my side!
If today or tomorrow you find yourself in an unpleasant situation, consider the following tips;
Never lose Hope: Hope will continuously give you something to live for and to look forward too.
Engage: I have adopted the scorched earth concept. It is a military strategy which involves destroying anything negative (memories, relationships, etc.) that might be useful to the enemy while advancing through (Life).
Forgive: Chose to forgive, sooner rather than later…by doing so you take back your power to live. Remember also to forgive yourself too.
Allow yourself the space and time to heal: This is tricky because it is easy to constantly re-live the hurt, nurse the memories/details of the hurts. It’s okay to take time to heal but by all means do not re – victimize yourself.
Accept Responsibility: by doing do it relieves you from the victim mentality. No one did anything to you, for which you did not first allow….